CAN YOU SPOT THE MOLE? 6 Straight Men vs 1 Secret Gay Man!

You can’t just ask someone, who hasn’t offered, whether they are gay or not. Although only clues, here are 10 ways for how to tell if someone is gay.

There was a thing in my day called “gaydar.” It was a special ability that some people had for how to tell if someone is gay. But, I was not blessed with gaydar. When it comes to homosexuality, I have no idea who anyone bats for, or maybe I don’t really give it much thought, unless I was into someone and trying to figure out if I had a chance.

There have been many instances in my life where someone suggested that my close friends were hitting on me, but I refused to see it. Since my brain isn’t wired that way, the thought never really dawned on me.

There are many things that I recognize set straight people apart from gay. It isn’t just about their mannerisms or the way they talk. It is the company they keep and the little clues they give if you’re open to hearing them. Also, the things they don’t say are key to figuring out how to tell if someone is gay.

#1 They never talk about attraction to the opposite sex. If you are with someone and they never talk about anyone from the opposite sex in an attraction manner, that either means they are super private or hiding something.

If every time the subject comes around to someone being “hot” and everyone else joins in while they stay silent, that might mean that they hide a secret about their sexual feelings. [Read: Should you worry about justifying your life choices?]

#2 They make comments about same-sex people’s sexual attributes. In reverse, if the person seems to be obsessed with body parts of same-sex people to the point where it makes you uncomfortable, they keep their sexuality hidden.

It isn’t that unusual to notice when someone is totally hot, equally for men and women of the same gender. But, if they seem preoccupied with the assets of their own gender that seems more like a longing, that may be a clue when it comes to figuring how to tell if someone is gay. 

#3 They are very quiet about their social life. Not everyone is ready to come out of the closet. Sometimes, people hide their sexuality due to family, social, or even work issues. If they never mention a significant other or even talk about any people in their life, it might make you question if they don’t want you to know on purpose.

#4 When they talk about someone significant in their life, but it sounds like they are more than just friends, that might be a clue. We have all met that woman or man who has a “roommate” or significant best friend, but they talk about them as if they are more than just friends?

#5 They stare at people of the same sex in the same way you do the opposite sex. If you catch them with their tongue almost hanging out at people of the same gender when they don’t know you’re looking, that might mean they have a hidden attraction to the same sex.

#6 They ask you questions about your sexuality and whether you are into experimentation. If you feel as if they might be hitting on you by the innuendos and comments, and they are of the same sex, don’t discount it.

Just like people of the opposite gender don’t want to be rejected, they could try to figure out if you are into them without outing themselves. They stay close, become a good friend, and make subtle hints to see your interest.